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With Consent Comes Responsibility

On July 9, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

We have all heard the aged old sentence usually mentioned within the BDSM community – “Submission is a gift”.

I totally agree with this statement, but I believe that it shouldn’t be used as a sort of definition on how much responsibility the Dominant is given by the submissive. If it is used for that [...]

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Our First BDSM Question Has Been Answered

On July 7, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

Our first BDSM question has been answered.

Somebody sent us the interesting question above regarding consent, even if we are not totally sure what the issues are being referred to in the question itself – But as always; we’re doing our best to answer it.

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Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 10 – How Do You Avoid Bad BDSM?

On April 19, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

I should be honest and say it straight out – Avoiding bad BDSM isn’t hard, but there are still people out there that end up in bad situations or relationships. Mistakes will happen when you do BDSM, your judgement will eventually fail you at times and you might get hurt from it, emotionally or physically. [...]

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Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 9 – The Good Submissive

On April 18, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

This post is not trying to be normative – It’s written by a Dominant from a dominant perspective, but the skills I am referring to is outside of the role of being a submissive as it doesn’t refer to servitude or similar skills which you should make use of when you are in your BDSM [...]

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Clear safewords are important

On December 9, 2009 By Stoltz Sinatra

It is of utter most importance to have clear and understandable safewords – If not, then you might end up in trouble.

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Topping from the Bottom: One Submissive’s Thoughts

On March 17, 2009 By Cloud Bracken

Preface: I wrote the following in considering how to discuss with a friend how in the world I could ever have offered submission, as I did, to Dominants who were not as educated or aware or BDSM savvy (to the extent that I am or was) as I was. Or how, yep, I HAVE topped [...]

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BDSM and Feminism – a few good reads

On March 7, 2009 By Cloud Bracken

In honor of International Women’s Day (March 8th), a few links on feminism and BDSM. Comments are mine (Cloud’s), as are any errors in summarizing the content; such are not intentional:

BDSM and Feminism: An Insider’s View by Tammy Jo Eckhart. The opinion of one heterosexual, feminist, dominant woman, [...]

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R.O.P.E. Roleplaying class session 2: Roleplaying

On March 6, 2009 By Cloud Bracken

Roleplaying. What is roleplaying. What is sexual roleplaying (cybering). Identifying and creating the role you want to play. Basic rules of roleplaying with other people. Safety including emotional risks. IC & OOC. Recap of lesson 1 and demonstration of a short interaction.

Location: Island of Pain, meetin in Square; please try to be prompt. Instructor: [...]
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In For Life is picking up….

On January 27, 2009 By Stoltz Sinatra

By the end of may in 2008 I finished up on building the In For Life sim in Second Life. The purpose of In For Life was to provide immersive prison play through the judicial system that has been developed specifically for IFL.

We had a flying start in June 2008 where we at one [...]

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The difference between BDSM and abuse

On May 7, 2008 By Stoltz Sinatra

I had an interesting discussion with a person the other day where I tried to explain the difference between abuse and BDSM. The hard part with a discussion like that is that I am into BDSM and it becomes natural to me to see a distinct difference between the two. That also makes it a [...]

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