Social protocol in communities is a tricky thing as well – Because communities mostly regulate themselves by transfering norms through reprimands. Some “rules” in communities are really hard to observe and is when you have broken them that you become aware of that they actually exists.

Mistakes happens and we all learn from it if it’s handled in a good way.

Before that I was just joking, thinking that u as well were joking, but then things got complicated! Chatting online does not accompany facial expressions or voice tunes, so we tend to interrupt it depending on our mood at that point, until the flow of the conversation itself goes awry and tell you that something was wrong!

Anyways, just as you said, the best thing is just to learn from your mistakes =) and I think this is very important in BDSM! Or those mistakes will pile up and become problematic after sometime!

Lately I’ve realized that what makes me angry about porn (and I’ve been angry lately) isn’t just how less-than I feel when I watch it (that’s mostly my own issue, not the porn’s issue) but that there are so many assumptions about what men and women want. That is, there’s this massive variety available and most porn looks the same (that is, the “popular” (well-funded) stuff). It’s a classic case of the market appealing to the lowest common denominator instead of trusting the consumer might have the capacity to enjoy a wider range of images and ideas.

Or is that, break the girl out of the birthday cake?