Island of Pain
RSSTwitterYoutubeTwitter
  • Home
  • Articles
    • BDSM Thoughts
    • BDSM Journal
    • BDSM Humor
    • BDSM Activism
    • BDSM Roles
      • Dominant
      • Submissive
      • Masochist
      • Sadist
    • BDSM news
      • BDSM Toys
      • Other blogs
      • Events
      • Podcasts
      • Web radio
      • Island of Pain
      • Second Life
    • BDSM Techniques
      • Scene Construction
      • Humiliation
      • Aftercare
      • Roleplay
      • Pony Play
      • Polyamoury
    • BDSM Material
      • BDSM Art
      • BDSM Erotica
      • BDSM History
      • BDSM Video
  • Video Blog
  • BDSM Forum
From the monthly archives: April 2010

We Have Been Nominated over at Bondage Awards

On April 26, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

We would like to send out a big Thank You to all of you that voted for us over at bondageawards.com – We made it to the second stage!

We are participating in the Best Free Website category and now we are asking all our readers that enjoy what we [...]

Continue Reading

BDSM Safewords Replaces Magic

On April 25, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

One opinion that I usually encounter when I read through forums and discussion groups is that if you trust your partner and have a healthy relationship then the usage of safewords isn’t necessary. The rationale is that the Dominant knows all the aspect of the submissive and by doing so he/she is actually able to [...]

Continue Reading

Power of Submission Videos

On April 24, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

The concept of submission is to some people a provocative concept. It becomes even more provocative is you talk about submission in a context that is outside the sphere of BDSM.

Shanel Cooper has done two interesting video posts about submission in ordinary relationships and how it can empower women. I find these post very [...]

Continue Reading

The Kickass – Foot and Butt Plug in Symbiosis

On April 24, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

Some time ago I wrote about the pussyfoot as a an example of a strange and weird sex toy.

Well, I present to you all; The Kickass

The Kickass is a combination of an anal plug and a big ass foot, which gives a whole new meaning to the [...]

Continue Reading

An Ode to BDSM

On April 24, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

BDSM…

Four letters in a combination that can create disgust as well as freedom depending on who reads them. Four letters that I couldn’t live without.

I can’t live without these letters because the give me a freedom. They allow me to express my sexuality and to meet people who are seeing the brain as [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 10 – How Do You Avoid Bad BDSM?

On April 19, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

I should be honest and say it straight out – Avoiding bad BDSM isn’t hard, but there are still people out there that end up in bad situations or relationships. Mistakes will happen when you do BDSM, your judgement will eventually fail you at times and you might get hurt from it, emotionally or physically. [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 9 – The Good Submissive

On April 18, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

This post is not trying to be normative – It’s written by a Dominant from a dominant perspective, but the skills I am referring to is outside of the role of being a submissive as it doesn’t refer to servitude or similar skills which you should make use of when you are in your BDSM [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 8 – The Good Dominant

On April 18, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

You have done your home work and practiced your skills and suddenly there’s a questions that pops up in your mind – How do you become a good Dominant?

It’s a tricky subject because as soon as you mention the idea of a “good Dominant” then it seems like you are trying to benchmark Dominant [...]

Continue Reading

How Do You Avoid Bad BDSM – BDSM Radio Talk Show on Sunday

On April 18, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

Our BDSM Theme Weekend – Where Do You Start With BDSM will finish on Sunday evening with our Radio Talk Show

We are going on the air with our biweekly radio talk show on Sunday the 18th of April at 20 GMT (3 pm New York, Noon PDT/PST/SLT, 9 pm CET).

The subject for this [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 7 – Know Your Equipment

On April 18, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

As we have mentioned before it is really important to know what you are doing when participating in a BDSM session. One part of that knowledge is to know your equipment and what you can do with it.

We have put together a guide for you which explains how different types of nipple clamps  works.

[...]
Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 6 – Gear Up and Do Your Own BDSM Toys

On April 17, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

One thing that you will get brutally aware of when you are getting into BDSM is that toys can be really expensive and some expensive toys out there are really flimsy and cheap in quality compared to how much you pay for them.

You are always faced with 3 different choices:

Should I buy BDSM [...]
Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 5 – Practice Your Skills

On April 17, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

This post is more targeted towards potential Dominants as they are usually the acting part in a BDSM session.

When you have read your books, been honest towards yourself and filled out your BDSM Check List, then what? At this point you should probably have a vague idea of what you want to do and [...]

Continue Reading

Vote For Us at Bondageawards.com

On April 17, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

We are participating in the yearly voting contest over at bondageawards.com. We are as usual participating in the Best Free Website category and we would like to have your vote if you enjoy what we are doing.

Island of Pain exist for for a couple of reasons; we want to [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 4 – Probe Your Kinks

On April 16, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

When you start to have a really explicit interest and want to do some BDSM then it can be quite daunting – How do you know what you will like!?

I remember when I got started; I didn’t know at all what I liked and I am not sure that I even knew [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 3 – The Importance of Honesty

On April 16, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

It has been said before and I will say it again – Honesty is one of the most important things when you do BDSM

Some people might think that honesty is mostly about not lying and this is true, to a limited extent. Honesty is much more than not just lying – Honesty starts with [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 2 – BDSM Books For You

On April 16, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

I mentioned in my post, Where Do You Start With BDSM – Books are Good For You, the importance of reading books about BDSM as an addition to all the information you can access on the web.

I would like to [...]

Continue Reading

Where Do You Start With BDSM Part 1 – BDSM Books Are Good For You

On April 16, 2010 By Stoltz Sinatra

I’ve always told people who want to learn things about BDSM, get in touch with your local BDSM community. Get in touch with people during a munch or a party and not just through the web-based BDSM community. When you socialize with people you get access to an arena where you can learn a lot [...]

Continue Reading
Page 1 of 212
  • Upcoming Posts

    Don't blink - Something will come up!

    Subscribe to Island of Pain Don't miss it - Subscribe by RSS.

  • Follow me on Google+

    Stoltz Sinatra
    Add to circles

    In 0 people's circles

  • Recent Comments

    • Miss Catherine Gail on Public Electroplay Video
    • Hook on BDSM Educational Videos On The Web – Good Or Bad?
    • Humbled One on Does pain turn you on?
    • Ms T on BDSM humor of the week
    • Hook on The Dominant’s no no
  • Tweets

    • The Construction of a BDSM scene - Prelude - This is the second part in my breakdown of a BDSM scene.... http://t.co/Cidnh2zA #BDSM 9 hours ago
    • BDSM Quote of the Day -   "Grab me, grope me, but don't cuddle me" — Delicia Drechsler about Aftercare http://t.co/W6LEZiUq #BDSM 19 hours ago
    • Our First BDSM Question Has Been Answered - [formspring username="BDSMquestion" questions="5"] Our first... http://t.co/9vtUc0TS #BDSM 1 day ago
    • The Trap - If you have a personal dungeon, then you need some furniture for it as well. Making your... http://t.co/KxhrOuiw #BDSM 1 day ago
    • A different type of cuffs - I like a nice pair of cuffs - Leather cuffs for the smell and ordinary... http://t.co/Er0WCyUi #BDSM 2 days ago
  • ** Thank you for your votes; and see winners at **

    • 2009 Bondage Awards
  • animal roleplay

    • Red Vinyl Kitty
  • BDSM Podcasts

    • DungeonPlace
    • The Masocast
  • Creative Erotic Things

    • Jenny Swallows – Erotic Verse
  • Directories

    • Adult Blog Hub
    • Adult Blog Hub Sex-Press
    • Bloggtoppen.se Bloggtoppen.se
  • Dominant Blogs

    • Saynine
  • Erotica

    • Remittance Girl
  • Lesbian

    • The Adventures of Kara & Jessica
  • Links Non-Blog

    • AdultBlogster
    • Ambrosio’s BDSM Site
    • BDSMForum, Sweden
    • Black Rose, USA
    • Center for Sexpositive Culture, USA
    • FemDom Radio
    • Leather And Roses: BDSM Resource Site
    • The Isle, Sweden (but in english as well)
    • The Spanking Universe
    • Threshold Society – Recommended Reading
    • Wikipedia on BDSM
    • Wipi, UK
  • Online D/s

    • Onlinesubmissive
  • SL Blogroll & Other Blogs

    • Alternative Mindsets
    • Barbie Starr On Second Life
    • BDSM is Love
    • Church of the Submissive
    • Clarisse Thorn
    • Forceme Silverspar
    • Her Owner
    • It's not enough
    • Love in Chains
    • Nimues World
    • Submissive Loving
    • Tinas Universum
  • Archives

  • Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

The Construction of a BDSM scene - Prelude - This is the second part in my breakdown of a BDSM scene.... http://t.co/Cidnh2zA #BDSM  — bdsmlifestyle
PageLines by PageLines