Comments on: The Importance of Mistakes – BDSM Processing 101

By: Nadia Nautalia

Nadia Nautalia — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 15:39:50 +0000

This is an excellent post. I think you are right — in or out of BDSM context, and online or off, what we really need to strive for is an understanding of each other at a deeper level. The goal of understanding is always the right one. It seems so simple…yet there is (as you pointed out) so much that gets in the way of that happening.

By: Stoltz Sinatra

Stoltz Sinatra — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 20:52:57 +0000

I totally agree with you Yuri – Online communication is lacking a lot of necessary channels that we use when communication face to face. That is why people mostly read things on the web with their own voice and their own mood.

Social protocol in communities is a tricky thing as well – Because communities mostly regulate themselves by transfering norms through reprimands. Some “rules” in communities are really hard to observe and is when you have broken them that you become aware of that they actually exists.

Mistakes happens and we all learn from it if it’s handled in a good way.

By: Yuri

Yuri — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:49:52 +0000

I do second everything u said, but honestly , what made me feel bad is that at some point I felt that I brought shame upon my whole country! And at that point I noticed that you were being serious, I mean when u asked “do you do this in you country?” I noticed that you were serious!

Before that I was just joking, thinking that u as well were joking, but then things got complicated! Chatting online does not accompany facial expressions or voice tunes, so we tend to interrupt it depending on our mood at that point, until the flow of the conversation itself goes awry and tell you that something was wrong!

Anyways, just as you said, the best thing is just to learn from your mistakes =) and I think this is very important in BDSM! Or those mistakes will pile up and become problematic after sometime!