Comments on: We Fuck With Our Brains Within BDSM http://islandofpain.com/2010/03/03/we-fuck-with-our-brains-within-bdsm/ Living BDSM as a Second Life and in Real Life Sun, 08 Aug 2010 03:27:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Stoltz Sinatra http://islandofpain.com/2010/03/03/we-fuck-with-our-brains-within-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-4308 Stoltz Sinatra Sat, 06 Mar 2010 22:28:35 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=2912#comment-4308 Well said! Marketing is sometimes the thing that keeps the gender stereotypes alive. Added to that is the concept of morals and other societal factors that are affecting the perception regarding what turns us on. These stereotypes seem to not be as hard coded into a sex positive environment. Women can get turned on by hardcore porn and men can get turned on by reading books. I think many people into BDSM have accepted this as they are going beyond what the porn industry has to offer them. Well said! Marketing is sometimes the thing that keeps the gender stereotypes alive. Added to that is the concept of morals and other societal factors that are affecting the perception regarding what turns us on. These stereotypes seem to not be as hard coded into a sex positive environment. Women can get turned on by hardcore porn and men can get turned on by reading books. I think many people into BDSM have accepted this as they are going beyond what the porn industry has to offer them.

]]> By: TsaphanBabe http://islandofpain.com/2010/03/03/we-fuck-with-our-brains-within-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-4303 TsaphanBabe Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:03:00 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=2912#comment-4303 I'm not a porn person myself, but am totally in support of people who enjoy it. I think you've got it right, though, that making sites like "for the girls" (I'm an affiliate because I write for them) is sort of just "turning the tables." At least there, though, the option of seeing "amateurs" is available. Still, the idea that viewers only want to see "perfect" (in a gross definition) is false. Lately I've realized that what makes me angry about porn (and I've been angry lately) isn't just how less-than I feel when I watch it (that's mostly my own issue, not the porn's issue) but that there are so many assumptions about what men and women want. That is, there's this massive variety available and most porn looks the same (that is, the "popular" (well-funded) stuff). It's a classic case of the market appealing to the lowest common denominator instead of trusting the consumer might have the capacity to enjoy a wider range of images and ideas. I’m not a porn person myself, but am totally in support of people who enjoy it. I think you’ve got it right, though, that making sites like “for the girls” (I’m an affiliate because I write for them) is sort of just “turning the tables.” At least there, though, the option of seeing “amateurs” is available. Still, the idea that viewers only want to see “perfect” (in a gross definition) is false.

Lately I’ve realized that what makes me angry about porn (and I’ve been angry lately) isn’t just how less-than I feel when I watch it (that’s mostly my own issue, not the porn’s issue) but that there are so many assumptions about what men and women want. That is, there’s this massive variety available and most porn looks the same (that is, the “popular” (well-funded) stuff). It’s a classic case of the market appealing to the lowest common denominator instead of trusting the consumer might have the capacity to enjoy a wider range of images and ideas.

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