Comments on: As a sub you should be able to trust…yourself? http://islandofpain.com/2009/08/15/as-a-sub-you-should-be-able-to-trust-yourself/ Living BDSM as a Second Life and in Real Life Sun, 08 Aug 2010 03:27:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Crystal http://islandofpain.com/2009/08/15/as-a-sub-you-should-be-able-to-trust-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-3826 Crystal Mon, 24 Aug 2009 03:00:27 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=872#comment-3826 Personally I have never feared I could "get out" of subspace, any more than I have feared I could "get out" of the relaxation of a good massage, or ever want to eat again after a good meal, or be able to function in the world if I meditate and achieve some depth. Time passes; nothing persists forever, even the good stuff, except in the sense that every moment lasts forever in some mystical sense. Time passes, and the next wave may be better than this one even if it's a great ride. I also think trusting another human being - my Dominant, or myself - is great practice for trusting others and for learning when and who and how to trust. I know my Dominant wants me to be healthy, to benefit from our relationship rather than be harmed by it. Becoming a mindless slug, utterly dependent, isn't what he wants - and I trust he won't guide us that way. Because he's a healthy self aware secure person, too. He wants that in his partner - even if making her squeal, whimper, beg, moan is periodic good fun. Personally I have never feared I could “get out” of subspace, any more than I have feared I could “get out” of the relaxation of a good massage, or ever want to eat again after a good meal, or be able to function in the world if I meditate and achieve some depth. Time passes; nothing persists forever, even the good stuff, except in the sense that every moment lasts forever in some mystical sense. Time passes, and the next wave may be better than this one even if it’s a great ride.

I also think trusting another human being – my Dominant, or myself – is great practice for trusting others and for learning when and who and how to trust.

I know my Dominant wants me to be healthy, to benefit from our relationship rather than be harmed by it. Becoming a mindless slug, utterly dependent, isn’t what he wants – and I trust he won’t guide us that way. Because he’s a healthy self aware secure person, too. He wants that in his partner – even if making her squeal, whimper, beg, moan is periodic good fun.

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