My birthday cake that outed me to my friends
I don’t like to sneak around with who I am, meaning that I like to tell people what and who I am which also includes my personal interests that affects my way of living. Of course BDSM is one of those things as it is a big part of my sexuality. It defines my relationships, what turns me on etc.
As everyone else within a kink, I am also faced with the “problem” regarding who I trust enough so I can tell. Ì have a selected few friends outside the curcuit that I have told, but I have some friends where I couldn’t judge what the reaction would be if I told them about me being involved in BDSM. So I came up with a subtle idea as I was turning 40 – I would out myself through my birthday cake.
It worked out very well and we had a 3 hour long conversation about what BDSM meant to me and how I practice it. One friend suspected it, as I had been hinting him before. But my other friend and his girlfriend didn’t know at all, but found it most interesting.
So a birthday cake can open some doors of honesty.
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What a beautiful cake. And what an idea for collarings, anniversaries, and other Lifestyle gatherings. I want one!
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LikeCourageous approach, Stoltz. I'm stuck in a situation in which I don't think I can out myself without losing my significant other. She's intesnely vanilla.
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LikeThe cake looks very delicious, was it as tasty as it looks?
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Likeno, no - for the birthday child :)
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Like@Allsmiles...was the above meant for me?
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LikeCool post, just subscribed.
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LikeHa ha ha! Nå då har du bara Familjen kvar då... :) grattis i efterskott!
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LikeOn another note, when might we see you back in SL?
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LikePerhaps one of the hardest things for someone in this lifestyle to do is to out themselves to their Vanilla friends and family. Many feel they cannot do so safely, without causing a rift or backlash with them. It is, however, one of the most liberating experiences when one can do so without worrying about the repercussions. I am glad for you that it worked out well for you Sir Stoltz - Bravo! -LordSir Ninetails
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LikePretty good post. I just came by your site and wanted to say that I've really enjoyed reading your posts. Anyway I'll be subscribing to your feed and I hope you post again soon!
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Likeohhh cool cake i want one too!! can you make one till monday hehe ;)
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