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Help needed – BDSM clothing advice CONTEST

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The summer is approaching and so is the potential amount of BDSM parties, which all seems very interesting to attend. I am definitely not into fashion as I am a relaxed type of guy. But when it comes to attend a BDSM get together, then I am usually a bit picky. I am usually wearing a pair of leather pants (black), a nice t-shirt (also black), a long leather coat (yes…It’s black) and boots (guess what…..black).

The things I am wearing are not uncommon among the male dominant community. The latest thing I have been looking at is a leather shirt that would go nicely with the rest of my outfit.

But now I want your help, give me some advice on how I can change my existing outfit into something different. It should draw some attention, be different but still communicate a Dominant male look. Fetish clothes, boots, shirts, leather, latex etc. – Mix and match and stun me.

Help me out and post your recommendations as links in the comments to this post. Try to put a complete outfit together.

The “winning outfit recommendation” will win 50 us dollars….The game is afoot!

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  1. Cloud says

    Master, I think you look very very dominant utterly naked… but can I check? please?

  2. LordSir Ninetails says

    Um, is this for a RL or SL get together?

  3. LordSir Ninetails says

    Okie-dokie, never mind, I see you linked to a RL site. Next question: Do you mind if it’s from the gay leather community? Some people won’t use it thus the question.

  4. LordSir Ninetails says

    OOPS! Another Question – Are you allergic to anything wearable? And another: Do you prefer custom fitted or off the rack?

  5. LordSir Ninetails says

    Aargh! How does someone post an actual weblink in the Comments section? Or should we just list the URL’s ?

  6. LordSir Ninetails says

    Oh Good Grief! Now, when is your deadline?

  7. Cloud says

    LordSir, I believe the answers are:
    1) RL outfit, with links to recommended RL articles of clothing and or accessories.
    2)… as far as I know, clothing itself has no sexual orientation, and does not in fact change the orientation of any human who puts it on. Or dogs, even those that put on those cute little leather jackets.
    3) hrmmm I suspect not, but if my Master has allergies I suppose he’ll post them. And recommend custom or off the rack; build a winning outfit.
    4) post like this: http://stores.shop.ebay.com/Doggie-club_Jackets_W0QQ_fsubZ676008013QQ_sidZ782201743QQ_trksidZp4634Q2ec0Q2em322 and if it doesn’t make it linkable – my Master and I may tweak it to be so. Your post MIGHT require approval before it shows in Comments; please be patient.
    5) Master has not announced a deadline. But maybe now he will. The contest will NOT run forever; this is a honest game with real prize as promised.
    Master please correct me if I mispoke… ::shivers in hope of correction but has answered as best she can anyway.::

  8. Stoltz Sinatra says

    Strokes the hair of his very own girl and smiles

    You are totally correct, my pet…All the things in your comment are basically the “rules”. I have no allergies, so any material is allowed.

  9. Delicia Drechsler says

    http://www.forthegirls.com/g04/g26/index.html
    Sorry i do have a thing for firemen ! Everyman should have a firemans outfit! I think in my humble opinion of course :)

  10. myangel says

    How about the followig brown leather jeans with a tight short sleave t-shirt cream or brown. Brown leather shows that you can be dominant and sexy without having to go black and would make you stand out in the crowd which again would make everyone subcounsiously think your very self confident and therefore obviously more domiant, you dont have to add much really to this look in fact a nice leather bull whip would do the trick. This in my imagination kind of looks halfway been a strong army look and an indian jones look… cant go wrong really.

    https://sslhelm.net/bikersparadise-co-uk/scripts/prodView.asp?idproduct=294

    There is a brown leather waistcoat too if that rocks your boat.
    https://sslhelm.net/bikersparadise-co-uk/scripts/prodView.asp?idproduct=296

    To be honest I think its the person behind the clothes that makes that person look dominant… its in their face, their body language when you talk to them, someone could wear a bright hawaian shirt and shorts and if you see that look in their eye or listen to them… youd cower and submit without hesitation unless you where looking for trouble… plus this is assuming the person looking is a subby.

    PS Stoltzy I think you could look dominant in anything you wore as long as you felt the strength inside you xxx

  11. LordSir Ninetails says

    Hmmmmm, Stoltz in Brown Leather, interesting, I am sure that would get some tongues wagging at his event…(LordSir smiles) but it is a highly entertaining thought. -LordSir Ninetails

  12. Zeb says

    Just a quick, “surf-by” response…

    I suspect whoever said “the clothes make the man” was in the business of selling them… myangel hit it on the head, echoing what a friend told me: she had been taken to task by a fellow Domme when working, naked, with 4 male subs (themselves in latex) at a club in the UK. Her response was something like:

    “If you can’t Domme barefoot, you’re not a Domme at all…”

    Which is not to say you should go naked to the party; while I personally favor black, brown amid a sea of black (and skin) might be an effective statement of individuality. A couple of years ago I met a guy who, to look at him, you’d likely take for either vanilla or a sub – to outward appearances, a wimp. But the woman with him was clearly his, and he is a published author with a “Master” nom de plume (don’t recall his name, sorry.)

    RL calls….. Be well,

    Zeb

  13. Cloud says

    Zeb and myangel, indeed, Dominance is in the person not the clothes; that was the subtle point behind my first post. Still – many of us LIKE dressing up for a party. Many of us like showing a sense of style. It’s playful. Many of us in SL have discovered the fun of shopping, too. So if money was no object, what outfits would you like to see on a male Dominant dressed for a good time?

  14. LordSir Ninetails says

    This is my first ensemble entry for Sir Stoltz to try. It is very simple but still striking:

    http://www.nastypig.com/daygear.php

    DayGear – Combat Pant-olive, Blank Ringer Tee – olive, Briefs or Trunks – black with gray

    http://www.nastypig.com/playgear.php

    PlayGear – Uniform Pant 2.0 – black with red stripe, Uniform Shirt – with red stripe,
    along with a nice black cap with red Nasty Pig logo as seen on the “Visuals” page, as well as the Industrial Rubber Belt, the black with red Armbands, and the black with red Key Strap

    http://www.danner.com/category/uniform+boots/duty.do

    Boots – Men’s Fort Lewis Uniform Boots 10”

  15. LordSir Ninetails says

    Oops! I meant Uniform Shirt – in red

  16. LordSir Ninetails says

    Okay, I was asked by someone to explain why I thought the idea of Sir Stoltz wearing Brown Leather to a Leather Event was “highly entertaining”. In some circles (but not all) the wearing of Brown Leather by a Dominant is a Faux Pas and indicates to those in these circles that the person wearing the Brown Leather is one to avoid if possible. In these circles Brown Leather is something only “boys”, meaning gay submissives, wear while they are working towards recognition as a slave. However, it is an old protocol and one that is dying with each new generation of BDSM lifestylers so it will probably have little effect to wear Brown Leather in a young group of them.
    Further, I would agree that the clothes do not, in fact, make the man or Dom, in this case and that you should be able to Dom in your birthday suit, if you are any Dom at all, and that is what you choose to do.

  17. Cloud says

    Hmm I knew it was an Old Guard rule not to mix brown leather with black – but had not heard brown was a sub/slave-in-training/on-trial color. Where was this the custom, LordSir?

  18. LordSir Ninetails says

    As I said, it is old and hardly used anymore, though from time to time it still shows up in the gay BDSM community(well, at least here in the Southeast USA) as some of the decendants of the Old Guard try to carry on the tradition. You will occasionally find some gear in the gay leather shoppes made in the Brown Leather but usually when you inquire about it your just told that it is usually just for “boys”, but they don’t know why(or won’t tell you if they do), or that some old coot ordered it and then died before getting it. No one seemingly can point to an actual text historically describing this custom or tradition, it’s seems to just be a verbal one.
    Interestingly though, as you pointed out, the aura or essence of the protocol still exists, though no one seems to know why.
    Which makes it doubly amusing (and sad) to me.

  19. LordSir Ninetails says

    Here is my second entry, from an old faithful in the Rubber Fetish Clothing industry, Demask: http://www.demask.com
    Mens Wear Rubber -
    Admirals Coat, in Black with Red Trim
    Frilly Evening Shirt, in Black with Red Trim
    Tight Trousers, in Black
    and then, from LaCrosse: http://www.lacrossefootwear.com/product/hunting+boots/rubber+boots/alpha+lite+black+18%22+hunting+boots.do
    Alpha Lite Black 18″ Hunting Boots

    Oh Yeah! Have fun….with love in the BDSM life, -LordSir Ninetails

  20. LordSir Ninetails says

    My third entry is from a company that is beginning to make some headway here in the U.S.A. as well (ala Fort Troff) – Invincible Rubber : http://invinciblerubber.com
    MR31 American Style Police Shirt, in Royal Blue and Black
    MR50 Jeans with Cod Piece, Black with 2.5cm single Royal Blue Stripes or RB21 Johdpurs, Black with 2.5cm single Royal Blue Stripes and then I still like those boots from LaCrosse,the Alpha Lite Black 18″ Hunting Boot (I wonder what we would be hunting in those :) : http://www.lacrossefootwear.com/product/hunting+boots/rubber+boots/alpha+lite+black+18%22+hunting+boots.do

  21. LordSir Ninetails says

    @21 : Don’t forget the Master’s Cap, Support Belt, and Whistle! Whoo Hoo!

  22. LordSir Ninetails says

    Entry #4: This may be my last entry here for though there are many other vendors out there who make nice things I am hard pressed to find things that are of original design or thought. Finding fetish-style rubber boots or shoes for men has been particularly difficult to find. I chose these last two vendors for several reasons: 1. They made fun-looking fetish clothes that were also comfortable. 2. They still looked Dominant. 3. The clothes are made here locally in Atlanta, GA,USA 4. The shoes were as close as I could come to keeping in line with the rubber theme and not look too ridiculous. :) So here it is:
    from LIBERATOR (who also makes the Liberator Sex Cushion Furniture!) http://www.liberator.com/products_latex_mens_gamma.php
    My favorite shirt of theirs is the Big Shirt but for the purpose of being original I am choosing the Fleur de Gris shirt and matching it with the Cargo Pants in Black with Silver trim.
    The shoes I am choosing come from a company in the UK (mainly because I am not sure where they are really made) called Cover-Up Protective Clothing for Work and Leisure http://www.cover-up.co.uk/welling/welling.htm
    Stock 529 , Black Rubber Safety Chukka

    P.S. If anyone knows of a manufacturer or retailer who has actual fetish-style rubber shoes (the whole shoe rubber not just the soles and sides) please post where they are?

    With Love in the BDSM Life, -LordSir Ninetails

  23. LordSir Ninetails says

    @23 P.S. – I’m sorry, I know there are several rubber footwear for those of female orientation, I meant to say male-oriented rubber shoes.

  24. Tina says

    On http://www.kinky-rubber.com you can also see many crazy uniform or outfits made of latex.



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