Comments on: Second Life and BDSM http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/ Living BDSM as a Second Life and in Real Life Thu, 11 Mar 2010 12:57:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Ekio http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3738 Ekio Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:57:22 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3738 Just found your blog through a forum. I'm a SL resident and have been experimenting with more and more BDSM in SL because of exactly what you've said. I felt safer. It helped that I'd been in the game for about 6mo when I met my Master in game. He helped me with my foundling interests and taught me a good number of things. My husband is quite happy with the fact that I'm more broad now in that respect. Though there are still things I'm timid about, I actually have a few kinks that Hubb doesn't and I can live those out in SL. Pony play for one is something my SL Master enjoys thoroughly (Hubb has no interest in it) and the fact that there are options available that allow him to fully take control of my avatar makes it even more pleasurable. Just found your blog through a forum.

I’m a SL resident and have been experimenting with more and more BDSM in SL because of exactly what you’ve said. I felt safer. It helped that I’d been in the game for about 6mo when I met my Master in game. He helped me with my foundling interests and taught me a good number of things. My husband is quite happy with the fact that I’m more broad now in that respect. Though there are still things I’m timid about, I actually have a few kinks that Hubb doesn’t and I can live those out in SL.

Pony play for one is something my SL Master enjoys thoroughly (Hubb has no interest in it) and the fact that there are options available that allow him to fully take control of my avatar makes it even more pleasurable.

]]> By: Zeb http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3346 Zeb Sat, 04 Apr 2009 07:35:27 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3346 Hi aoefe! Have not had time to keep up with your blogs, I'm afraid but I am delighted to see you posting here. I need to sleep so won't try to think tonight, but will send a quick email. Be well, all. Hi aoefe! Have not had time to keep up with your blogs, I’m afraid but I am delighted to see you posting here.

I need to sleep so won’t try to think tonight, but will send a quick email. Be well, all.

]]> By: Debsidora Dailey http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3345 Debsidora Dailey Fri, 03 Apr 2009 16:40:23 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3345 Compliments on your article, Stoltz! So well written :) I've been practising BDSM in RL for years. SL has added an extra dimension to it, it has helped me develop and improve my skills immensely. I'm very fortunate to have been guided and helped by a certain someone in SL I refer to as Master. I'm fortunate to call him Master in RL as well :D Not forgetting to mention the fascinating people I've had the pleasure of meeting. Compliments on your article, Stoltz! So well written :)
I’ve been practising BDSM in RL for years. SL has added an extra dimension to it, it has helped me develop and improve my skills immensely. I’m very fortunate to have been guided and helped by a certain someone in SL I refer to as Master. I’m fortunate to call him Master in RL as well :D

Not forgetting to mention the fascinating people I’ve had the pleasure of meeting.

]]> By: LordSir Ninetails http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3331 LordSir Ninetails Sun, 29 Mar 2009 17:19:29 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3331 @aoefey - Don't worry, when the time is right, you will overcome your fears and take that bold step into RL BDSM. Many of us don't even "discover" this part of ourselves until late in life. It is very hard to take that step into an organized BDSM group or club in RL. I remember the first time that I did it took going to the site of the club, sitting outside in my car watching everyone enter the place, and then coming back again the next month and doing it again. On the third try I finally overcame the fears to go in and see what was going on. I can honestly say that joining an organized group/club is, in my mind, the best way for a novice to learn and find a Dominant or submissive in RL. Choose a group that teaches, not just parties. In the beginning just watch and look for the players who interest you the most in terms of the type of play that they do. Find out from the staff how to approach that person. Ask the person your interested in if they can talk with you. Your now in the beginning stages of negotiation. It may or may not lead to a play partner or relationship, but it will lead to more confidence in approaching and negotiating with others. Good luck! -LordSir Ninetails @aoefey – Don’t worry, when the time is right, you will overcome your fears and take that bold step into RL BDSM.
Many of us don’t even “discover” this part of ourselves until late in life. It is very hard to take that step into an organized BDSM group or club in RL. I remember the first time that I did it took going to the site of the club, sitting outside in my car watching everyone enter the place, and then coming back again the next month and doing it again. On the third try I finally overcame the fears to go in and see what was going on. I can honestly say that joining an organized group/club is, in my mind, the best way for a novice to learn and find a Dominant or submissive in RL. Choose a group that teaches, not just parties. In the beginning just watch and look for the players who interest you the most in terms of the type of play that they do. Find out from the staff how to approach that person. Ask the person your interested in if they can talk with you. Your now in the beginning stages of negotiation. It may or may not lead to a play partner or relationship, but it will lead to more confidence in approaching and negotiating with others. Good luck! -LordSir Ninetails

]]> By: aoefey http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3328 aoefey Sun, 29 Mar 2009 14:49:45 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3328 Forgot to say thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a comment. If you're interested in an invite to Dirty Details I'd be honoured to have you. aoefey@yahoo.ca Thanks. Forgot to say thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a comment. If you’re interested in an invite to Dirty Details I’d be honoured to have you. aoefey@yahoo.ca Thanks.

]]> By: aoefey http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3327 aoefey Sun, 29 Mar 2009 14:48:06 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3327 I discovered BDSM in Secondlife. It started me on my journey to find a rl Dom. So far unrealized, but I've had interesting experiences along the way. I was fortunate to find a rl Dom in SL who indeed played remarkable, intoxicating head games with me. He was willing to move to my country from his to continue in rl, however I got very cold cold feet and this was never reaized. I have some regrets about this. Thanks for your post. I discovered BDSM in Secondlife. It started me on my journey to find a rl Dom. So far unrealized, but I’ve had interesting experiences along the way. I was fortunate to find a rl Dom in SL who indeed played remarkable, intoxicating head games with me. He was willing to move to my country from his to continue in rl, however I got very cold cold feet and this was never reaized. I have some regrets about this. Thanks for your post.

]]> By: LordSir Ninetails http://islandofpain.com/2009/03/25/second-life-and-bdsm/comment-page-1/#comment-3312 LordSir Ninetails Thu, 26 Mar 2009 15:14:38 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=592#comment-3312 Well said, Sir Stoltz. Where is the TP link to the City of Pain? I could use some more neighbors! -LordSir smiles one of those wickedly playful smiles :) Well said, Sir Stoltz. Where is the TP link to the City of Pain? I could use some more neighbors! -LordSir smiles one of those wickedly playful smiles :)

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