http://islandofpain.com/2009/02/03/how-should-a-dominant-behave-towards-unowned-and-owned-submissives/ Living BDSM as a Second Life and in Real Life Sun, 08 Aug 2010 03:27:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://islandofpain.com/2009/02/03/how-should-a-dominant-behave-towards-unowned-and-owned-submissives/comment-page-1/#comment-3154 Delicia Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:43:25 +0000 http://islandofpain.com/?p=426#comment-3154 Really enjoyed reading this artical as unfortunately i was unable to attend this discussion group. It was good to read many things that as an owned submissive i wanted to be talked about - and unfortunately a lot of the scenarios mentioned have occurred to me from other Doms (as probably other subs in SL have experienced too). You try to ensure that certain limits like 'no touching' or 'owned' are very clear in profiles but this still can get over looked - and this can be frustrating and can make you feel like the Dom is disrespting your play and choices (and the bit that riles me the most - disrespecting my Master and his rules for me). I always try to stay polite in these situations if i can (as my Master has kindly trained me to do so) as i do find politeness rides over most uncomfortable or awkward situations :) and as i am luckily owned i can refer the Dom to my Master. Think it would be more tricky if i were unowned and i would find unowned subs points of views on this most interesting. It usually demonstrates a lack of understanding on the Doms part (they are human too :)) and as a submissive with our own responsibilities it may be our responsibility to discreetly and politely point this out ? Not sure on that one :) RL i have only met one other Dom ((Stoltz Sir )) and although he is still a deeply perverted so and so in RL too he was as always a gent - so no complaints so far about RL Doms :) Really enjoyed reading this artical as unfortunately i was unable to attend this discussion group. It was good to read many things that as an owned submissive i wanted to be talked about – and unfortunately a lot of the scenarios mentioned have occurred to me from other Doms (as probably other subs in SL have experienced too). You try to ensure that certain limits like ‘no touching’ or ‘owned’ are very clear in profiles but this still can get over looked – and this can be frustrating and can make you feel like the Dom is disrespting your play and choices (and the bit that riles me the most – disrespecting my Master and his rules for me). I always try to stay polite in these situations if i can (as my Master has kindly trained me to do so) as i do find politeness rides over most uncomfortable or awkward situations and as i am luckily owned i can refer the Dom to my Master. Think it would be more tricky if i were unowned and i would find unowned subs points of views on this most interesting. It usually demonstrates a lack of understanding on the Doms part (they are human too ) and as a submissive with our own responsibilities it may be our responsibility to discreetly and politely point this out ? Not sure on that one RL i have only met one other Dom ((Stoltz Sir )) and although he is still a deeply perverted so and so in RL too he was as always a gent – so no complaints so far about RL Doms

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