So, I have been exploring the switch side of me and in that exploration I found an other switch and we decided to do something new to me – switch on each other!
An interesting idea I thought. To see if you can switch and be both Dom and Sub to the same person. Took a long time to find a man that seemed to be able to get me to accept him in both roles, but I did and we made a deal. We are on top one moth at the time.
November has been my month on top and I have had a splendid time 
this man can take some serious pain! And I give what I can and what the Sub can manage, so the sadist side of me has had a field trip this month 
I sometimes say to Herrn that he should never date a switch (most often when I have a fit and through chairs at him…) but now I have to say – NEVER DATE A SADIST!!!
November turned December and I am in pain….
But the exploration of switchhood is still quite intriguing, would like to be able to sit down though…
/Fröken – times two this month…
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Does souund like you really maneuvered yourself into between a rock and a hard place this month. Hopefully just “double the fun”. But i’m not volunteering to change places with you
Good luck/have lotsa fun with it.
Dane
Wow… first off, kudos on your courage and exploration. As a switch, my experience with switching with one person for any extended period (rather than one “date” or maybe 2, after which we pretty much no longer wanted to play with each other) is quite limited; 4 people, 2 in RL, 2 online. However I have read of very long switch partnerships.
For me, I think that takes a trust even beyond what I bring to either my sub or dom relationships – not greater; but broader; because I have to trust not only that such a switch could surrender to me, but also truly dominate me, in scene; and be able to be that 3rd self with me, the not-in-scene self, for safe negotiation and communication.
Managing an extended BDSM and non BDSM relationship seems complicated enough when one BDSM role is involved. I’d fear spillover into the RL relationship even more, when the BDSM experiences start to get confused or warp the RL relationships. Shared switching seems to me like polyamoury in RL; it can be so damned complicated, all the emotional risks of online polyamoury plus physical and health risks, plus (in my culture) fairly intense social disapproval. You face all the emotional physical and relational risks of a BDSM relationship, squared; any subconscious issues or tensions in the dom, sub or out-of-scene personas from either participant might get expressed in complications or even loss of control in the other BDSM role.