So today we had a discussion on the modern way of pouring ones heart out in virtual public – Facebook, My Space, YouTube and such – and we were a bit concerned about the phenomena. Bravely saying that 15 years ago no one had the need and urge to put their private life in pictures, words and wall to wall messages on display – but nowadays you are no one if you do not have a Facebook. Oh, how funny people are – we said smiling…
But hey wait a minute – is not that just what we are doing here. Isn’t a blog to pour ones heart out!?
I am ordered to tell you all on an everyday basis how I see, react, and develop to submission – all that is a direct link into the BDSM part of me. But also a part of my most inner self. I am, simply put – pouring my heart out.
So why is this - Is the modern man an exhibitionist by nature, why are we all sharing and looking into each others life?
/Fröken
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Yes, in fact, I am an exhibitionist by nature...been for a long time, long before the dawn of Facebook, MySpace, etc. Back in my college days I loved wearing semi-transparent tops w.out bra underneath, or having sex at places where I can be easily caught ;-) OK, seriously now...imho, the social networks are more or less a result from tech revolution compounded with globalization of the world - 90% of my FB friends live abroad and it's an easy way to keep in touch, and the other 10% are expats like myself, so... It's an easy outlet - we share good news, or vent frustration. And some people are simply bored and boring people who have nothing better to do , they existed before FB too, we just didn't have them on record ;-) With the blogs though I see different reasoning - it's a bit more personal, more revealing. I blog because I am an extrovert (my personal blog) and an exhibitionist/adventure seeker (my BDSM blog) :-) But in both cases the internet only serves as a tool to what I used to do before...only before my audience was smaller :)
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LikeI think it's more about the connections we make when we pour our hearts out. Some choose to tell more than others...but the phenomenon of sharing so much of our lives is rooted in how close we then feel to others who agree with our perspectives or say, "Hey, that's my thought too!" In this lifestyle, it's more pronounced. I know I started to feel more validated in my feelings when sharing or reading thoughts online than before I even had a name for my submissive tendencies.
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LikeI should add - I do HAVE Facebook and some other social connectivity tools myself. And for friends it can be fascinating. But (obviously) I am not entirely confortable with the ?intimacy? found in our participation, as yet.
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LikeI agree the phenomena is odd, but I am not sure its entirely exhibitionisn. The practitioners of this non privacy do not seem to experience a thrill. I certainly enjoy exhibitionism. But non-privacy is ultimately numbing. My country, and others, traded privacy after 9/11 for security. I recall when I expressed concern about this irrevocable abandonment of privacy as a norm, being asked the question "what do they - or you - have to hide? as if "hiding" was inherently wrong or malicious. Suspicious insinuation was the conformity-demanding peer/pack and even legal response. And on reality shows, it is common to see people trade dignity for cash prizes or simply for noteriaty. The key achievement of this and Facebook seems more conformity, peer acceptance, individual status submerged in a group context. Exhibitionism feels more individualistic to me; less about group acceptance than about self display within a social group, a different flavor of competitive.
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