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From the monthly archives: November 2008

The greater good of BDSM

On November 30, 2008 By AllSmiles

So, why do we all bother with all this work, pain and confusion? The answer is of course different to all of us but the most common ones will probably be: relaxation, development of oneself, fun and the big kick one get out of it.

But I also think that there is an other way [...]

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Todays contribution

On November 29, 2008 By AllSmiles

Will be the poll ‘What is your favorite fetish?’

And a question I am interested to read you answer to in the comments. Why do fetish and BDSM belong together – or – why do fetish and BDSM not belong together?

/Fröken

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Pouring ones heart out

On November 29, 2008 By AllSmiles

So today we had a discussion on the modern way of pouring ones heart out in virtual public – Facebook, My Space, YouTube and such – and we were a bit concerned about the phenomena. Bravely saying that 15 years ago no one had the need and urge to put their private life in pictures, words [...]

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The difference between giving up and giving in…

On November 27, 2008 By Stoltz Sinatra

Reaching submission is hard work, even if you are an experienced submissive. Each BDSM-relationship requires a specific definition of submission as each dominant controls the journey for the submissive. At the same time is each individual submissive requires different approaches.

Reaching submission is a psychological journey in every sense, enforced by physical means, as well [...]

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So giving up was not an option…

On November 26, 2008 By AllSmiles

But I am just so bored with this assignment right now – so giving up seemed to be the only reasonable thing to do. But no, that was not excepted. So – I am afraid my friends that you probably will have to witness some rather ugly behavior the next few days. I am, at [...]

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What do you wish for Christmas?

On November 24, 2008 By AllSmiles

Yes it is approaching fast – Christmas bloody Christmas

The holiday we all love to hate but would not be without for anything in the world…

So if there were to be a black shiny PVC wrapped present with a great big bow in red leather under the three from you special kinky one [...]

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Short on inspiration…

On November 23, 2008 By AllSmiles

So today my contribution is the new poll and that is probably it for me today.

I will spend the day out in the beautiful sunny winterland which has decided to stay – still puzzled over the whole winter thing this early…

/Fröken

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Submission makes me greedy

On November 22, 2008 By AllSmiles

The closer I get to submission the greedier I get. The more important the reward becomes. Fighting against the submission, trying to keep control (not over the situation but over me) is such a hard work that I get greedy. I feel that I deserve a huge admiration for my work and what I endure [...]

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Getting used and abused, not loved

On November 21, 2008 By AllSmiles

So now I am lost for words! Just red a blog from a 18 year old schoolgirl calling her self slave to a 30 year old man. This blog would be the perfect example on how to not go about submission! ( if you read Swedish: http://slavflickan.blogspot.com )

Reading her blog about how he pulls [...]

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Let me paint you a picture…

On November 21, 2008 By AllSmiles

Today’s post is an image – I just do not have any idea of what to write this time. But I do have a assignment to live up to so, I will call on the age old tradition of a picture tells more then a thousand words…

/Fröken – Who sits in [...]

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Todays question: Do I really need to be a bitch to be dominant?

On November 20, 2008 By AllSmiles

So yesterday I wondered on the soft side of being Domme. Do I really need to be a bitch to be perceived as a Domme. My answer is no. I actually think that my soft side gives the Domme side of me more impact. I am in the beautiful sense a real bitch to a [...]

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The safe words goes two ways

On November 20, 2008 By AllSmiles

As the BDSM journey progress deeper and deeper in pushing boundaries and endurment for the Sub something new enters the stage – the importance to remember that they safe words are there for both the Sub and the Dom.

Not only in the sense that the safe word is a safety for the Sub to [...]

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Getting too sure of oneself

On November 20, 2008 By AllSmiles

As a BDSM partnership progress you get quite sure of yourself and each other.

For me it has shown itself as a bit of over believing in myself and my ability to stand strong in my control. So I tend to push my limits a bit too heavy, convinced that I can keep in control. [...]

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Can I ever go vanilla again?

On November 20, 2008 By AllSmiles

Can I stow all my lovely 6 inch shoes, whips and chains away. Hide my will to feel the lust of pain. And simply go back to only taste vanilla again?

This is a thought that scares me a lot…
During my teens I experimented with sex as most of us do, and there [...]

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AllSmiles has been naughty!

On November 17, 2008 By Stoltz Sinatra

AllSmiles has been forced to wear a collar, that I actually padlocked as well. This was done in order to remind her of the connection she has to her Master. As AllSmiles has admitted to, she is disobedient by nature, which made her do a bratty thing on the blog yesterday.

She changed the textcolor [...]

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What makes the Sub submissive?

On November 17, 2008 By AllSmiles

How much submission must I, as a Sub, show and feel to be an actual submissive. When do I become a submissive? These are the questions going through my mind this morning.

I do call myself submissive – but I do not feel submissive in life. I feel submissive during some BDSM sessions but not [...]

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How much is too much?

On November 16, 2008 By AllSmiles

Or: Are you allowed to momentarally hate your Dom?!

So here I sit with a fucking collar locked on to me – I have to say that I at the moment feel lots of things and one of them is hate! So am I allowed to hate my Dom or is that too much?

I have [...]

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