Or, could one be submissive when you are a dominant?
The answer is of cause yes, since I am just that. There is of cause a bigger picture in which the question is what ever I am dominant or a sadist or both, or if I am just a bitch 
I do not know if this post will give you, or me for that matter, an answer to that one…
For me it is all in the pairing up. How I am as a Sub is of cause built in to my personality but how it shows itself is relative to the man I am submissive to. He forms and shapes me, plays me, leads me and once and awhile drives me crazy. But foremost he challenges me in to be the strongest I can be. The pairing up is for me essential – if I and the Dom have fundamental different views on how to go about submission and dominance we will never reach a fulfilling result. There are all sorts and you just need to find the one who will match you – it does takes two to tango, and it helps if one of you does not try to do the mambo… 
So, I do not really know if I need to go on further explaining myself here but… For me submission comes out of pairing up with someone who are dominant to me by nature rather than rules. I need to feel submissive instinctively and not based on play or forced rules. If I feel dominant to the man I go switch… So I just need to find a man strong minded enough to challenge me. A dominant who just wants me to fall to the ground and say ‘Yes, Master’ as soon as he enters the room will find himself in big trouble. And for me a dominant who does not find the fight thrilling and the victory over a strong woman rewarding are not a dominant – he is a suppressor, a small man hiding behind a role. I can not be bothered with such a man, I could give him a good whipping or so, just to show him his right place though… but I will never spoil the gift of my submission on him. He would frankly not understand the gift given to him.
Role play and forced rules are of cause a good way to reach submission but they need to be played out by a dominant who are on top so to say, otherwise I will never respect the rules. I am sure that me and my Master will reach the point were I fall to the ground and say what ever he wants to be greeted with, but not by force, by me being rewarding and thankful for his gift of care, love and evolvement, and his appreciating the gift of me. Master Stoltz will have his work cut out for him to take me to that point though – and I know he will enjoy every step of it, even the times when I break his whip into two.. me being a switch and all
/Fröken – with 22 minutes to go…
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Such an interesting view on the matter “switch”, Fröken AllSmiles
Your description of how a Master is “supposed to” be could not be more accurate – in my mind, anyway! I shall remember your words as I explore with my Master……..I’ll try to calm down till I see him next time. Definitely not as easy task
I am aware that there is no right or wrong in this exciting world, but you put it SO well, Fröken AllSmiles
Enjoy your trip
My Master will tell me off for making a spelling mistake, with him on my mind it is impossible for me to concentrate on anything but his…….
“I need to feel submissive instinctively and not based on play or forced rules.” (AllSmiles)
And there’s nothing that makes such a mutual gift superior to the dominance/submission more natural to the pair; it simply can be an option IF there is mutual desire and skill.
Yessss I think this is when BDSM really touches deeply, when it becomes magic. Roleplay acting can be fun, amusing; but the gut level experience of dominance or submission is so much more. And that’s why I agree it’s so true, that “For me it is all in the pairing up. How I am as a Sub is of cause built in to my personality but how it shows itself is relative to the man I am submissive to.” To some people, I react submissively naturally; to others I am naturally dominant; trying to play with either in the other mode would take not only mutual desire but mutual skill to achieve the actual responses in each.
As for those who do not understand that submission is a gift, not taken but given; that dominance is a gift, not imposed but accepted with joy; that a good pursuit or “fight” is a lovely dance a pair can enjoy endlessly – well, they have not experienced the essence of BDSM in my humble opinion. Finding one’s match in this is beauty and joy beyond words; desiring it and not finding it, suffering which also cannot be expressed.
May happiness abound.
Rereading all and my own entry however I have to add: a sense of humor, for oneself and shared, keeps it healthy as well as fun, for me. I can be very amused at myself, seeing myself react very dominantly or submissively or in roleplay. And is there anything sexier than a laugh – even if one is evil and the other nervous? Especially if the care and trust on both sides is strong and growing.
Oh, oh, oh..Cloud! I could not have said it better myself! “a good pursuit or “fight” is a lovely dance a pair can enjoy endlessly” – so true and very beautiful put
And I also get a bit excited over your input on laughter. A good laugh and a relaxed and open hearted ambiance is for me essential.
As a Sub I can be dead scared as we are testing bounderys that can be set hard within me so if we can not laugh at my reactions and through that also pacify them a bit and make them in to something I can handle (after all, it is all in my mind) them we might not be ready to attack that boundery just yet. Laughter is a good sign of trust I would say.
Even as a Dom I would say that laughter is good, as a sign that my Sub is OK. And also if I as a Dom try something out that might back fire, I need to relax and feel safe in the situation and go at it again – a laughter takes the bitterness out of misshap, even for a Dom
Master shows up among these wonderful posts about laughter and rubs his homemade electroplay electrodes against each other. He gives away an evil laughter looking at AllSmiles while the electrical sparks are buzzing and flickering between the chords. He suddenly starts shaking from the current flowing through his body and his hair is standing on its ends while he is shouting “ouch the damn thing is not isolated enough!”
He runs out from the post area with smoke coming out from his head, leaving a faint smell of burnt flesh behind…
Oh Master is so teasing ‘Fröken’s switching side – I think we need to give you a good whipping for not doing your engineering right…
Shocking. We’re all shocked.
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