Actually yes i am very much so – it’s highly dependant on who i am with, what feelings they invoke in me. For example, a Dominant character, whether they are full time Dominant or just playing a temporary role, will invoke a deep seated need in me to fall to my knees and kiss feet! lay there and be controlled, played with and generally abused.

However, place a little subbie in front of me, one who is meek, mild, subservient, compliant and docile and out comes the Domme Harridan from Hell with the big patent leather thigh-high boots – ok that’s a touch of an exaggeration but you get the idea of what i mean.

Much of the time in my experience i have seen those claiming to be true submissives generally rant and rave in a most un-submissive type manner. other times i have seen those claiming to be true dominant get walked all over by a bright intellectual strong willed, opinionated self proclaimed submissive – er, sounds like me!

Anyway – i ramble, just like Cat, did ya notice yet?

I am happy within my little role, switching between the two, days when i am more proficient at one than the other – days when i can just bend over and bow to another’s will, days when if someone tried to dominate me they most likely would walk away with a severe limp (limp what i’ll leave to your imagination).

BDSM D/s Gor Fetishism, whichever realm you choose you will discover such a diversity that i feel pigeon holing people with titles is not only futile but pointless, you can give titles to people within individual relationships but not something generic as often this leads to confusion.

I’m fairly certain i’ve talked long enough about a subject dear to my heart, and probably confused a few people on the way as i tend to hop about all over the place typing stuff as it pops into my head, which normally is embroiled in various activities such as, who can i hit later, or what’s for tea, or even better ‘wouldn’t it be nice to have a spanking right now’

i’ll be back later to check on this subject – me likey lots long time peeps

oh that’s my effort at trying to be mildly amusing.. did it work?

There was people switching at the discussion and I just want to clarify one thing so the further discussion doesn’t get misunderstood.

The discussion group. as well as this blog, extists in order to show the multitude of opinions and expressions that exists with in the domain of BDSM and it will never be a forum to establish a norm.
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Every opinion, idependant of RL/SL experiences is accepted, but of course also subject to discussion as some people might agree or disagree. And we will probably on an individual level learn something from that.

I hesitate to explain this. But – for what it is worth – for me, with people who get it, I am one thing or the other; I am submissive to many, and Dominant to a few. It is a very different frame of mind, and shifting back and forth is NOT comfortable or desirable to me.

With people who do NOT really “gett it” (D/s etc.) I can roleplay more flexibly, because I may be playing closer to vanilla then otherwise, with just such flavor as they seek.

I do not assume my personal experiences howqever are norm; not enough RL experience to know, and I am not that arrogant.

But can we hesitate please to marginalize those we define as kinkier then us?

IMO – the real D/s relationship is the RELATIONSHIP, the way 2 people relate to each other. And though I have never really met anyone I FELT was a switch, I am willing to imagine that one person can have a true submissive RELATIONSHIP to one person while having a TRUE dominant RELATIONSHIP with another – either in parralel or sequentially. I personally would wonder about their development as a human, but that is not to deny them the chance to switch.

Secundo Dharma