I was reached by some very disturbing news earlier today.
The Swedish BDSM club Whipclub, in Stockholm, is being discriminated by their building owner and had to cancel their planned party today.
Whipclub have been locked out by the buildning owner even though Whipclub has a contract and has been using the place before, but the building owner has for some reason decided on their own that the activities are illegal. BDSM and the lifestyle is by no means illegal in Sweden and it has never been tried in court with a ruling saying that it is.
This is the message that was sent out by the organisers of Whipclub, translated from Swedish:
“Hello all members
We have unfortunately been subject to a lockout!
The building owner claims that we are carrying out illegal activities, which we are of course not doing. We have started a judicial process but we don’t have access to the premises until we have an outcome from this process in terms of a ruling. Our landlord wont help us as their decision has been to backup the building owner. We have been in contact with the police in order to investigate if we can get some help from them to gain access to the premises as we have a legal contract, but they cannot do anything without a court ruling. And it is impossible to get hold of a ruling within 24 hours.
We are really sorry for the last minute message and we hope that you will all help us through your networks. Call, send textmessages and inform everyone through facebook
At this moment our hope goes out to our angel Camilla at Eve collection who has to refund all the tickets. We haven’t had the time to ask her before we went public with this information.
We have been trying really hard to find another venue, pub or a restaurant where we could gather and talk through the latest events or just hang out with your friends, but we haven’t been successful in this effort as we wanted to rent the place for just our members due to the short time frame.
We are prepared to fight for the club and we are asking for your support, understanding and help.”
It seems like things are getting harder in Sweden when it comes to alternative sexualities outside the norm of society.
My initial thoughts, which are a no brainer, is that the building owner is using the “illegal activities” excuse to actually pass a moral judgement.
Even if you don’t live in Sweden or never heard of Whipclub, please show them your support – Give them some supporting comments.
And I am asking you all for one big favor, spread the news. Let everyone know about what is going on as discrimination should be stopped where ever it happens.
I will keep you all posted about the events as they unfold.
I’m not totally sure that this will qualify as BDSM – Japanese girls playing with eels up their pussy.
It’s a sort of real life spin off from the cartoons that depicts tentacle porn, which is basically Japanese girls being impregnated with alien eggs by aliens with large tentacles. The concept is in other words provocative and maybe a bit gut wrenching for the faint hearted.
If you don’t like fish, then you might wanna stay away from this video – If you want to have a view into a very different kink then you should definitely take a look.
We’re back after a couple of interesting days in Stockholm.
We met some wonderful people during our attendance at the BDSM theme day and we have enough material to make a good podcast out of it – Which we will eventually do, so stay tuned…
Me and Little are in Stockholm at the moment, visiting Pride 2010. Today is filled with some interesting seminars on BDSM which we plan to take a look at.
We will post about it all later on.
Congratulations to every kinkster out there, today it’s the International BDSM Day, 24/7 2010!
There’s a lot of things going on all around the world during this day, people get together to have fun and celebrate this day in different ways.
Me and Little Snowpaw are going to get together with a bunch of other people in a nearby town in a park to have a nice picknick with some good food and some wine.
Hold on before you think “Well, wine and cheese – That’s not very BDSM”, I’m not done yet.
I’m actually going to wear my leather pants and my leather shirt, which is my usual stuff that I wear during gatherings. Yes, I know – leather pants and shirt isn’t BDSM in itself.
Who do you think is writing this? I’ve been rambling in certain posts about that it isn’t your leather gear that turns you into a good Dominant, it’s the mindset. But nonetheless, I do love my leather pants, we have a special relationship and I promised to take them out for a nice time today. The leather shirt is a newcomer in our relationship, so she is just tagging along.
Enough about the leather gear and meeting up with fellow kinksters, we are actually going to have some competitions as well. Target practice with a single tail is one of the things we are going to compete in. I believe that this is the thing that actually makes the whole thing into a BDSM-related event.
A while back we posted a poll with some questions about what people were going to do on this glorious day and we got a great response!
What are you going to do during the international BDSM day?
I'm going to watch Oprah Winfrey as I don't do BDSM (13%, 18 Votes)
I'm gonna push the boundaries of my submissive in celebration of this glorious day (32%, 43 Votes)
I'm gonna spend the whole day training my submissive (14%, 19 Votes)
I'm gonna stay in bed with a leather hood on waiting for the darn thing to be over (1%, 1 Votes)
I'm going to obey my Master/Mistress in ways I've never done before (22%, 30 Votes)
I'm going to spend the whole day in restraints (18%, 25 Votes)
Total Voters: 136
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Let me just do a quick break down of the results.
We had 136 people voting in this highly scientific poll, we spread the questions so they would cover both Dominants and submissive as well as a few other kinky practices out there.
The most voted for alternative was “I’m gonna push the boundaries of my submissive in celebration of this glorious day” which tells us that most participants in this poll were Dominants. Our second conclusion to this is that most Dominants are control freaks, because who would otherwise plan ahead for two months that they were going to push the boundaries of their submissive? The poll has been online for almost two months and the first answers we got were in this category.
This was followed by “I’m going to obey my Master/Mistress in ways I’ve never done before” as a good second. Now, this one got us a little bit worried because we couldn’t believe our own eyes. We were under the impression that all submissives out there being owned were already doing everything to obey their Masters and Mistresses in unimaginable ways. This answer is a proof that this isn’t the case and we are convinced that you will all get spanked for your lack of ambition – Shame on you all! Continued…
One way to reveal your kink to the right people is to wear the BDSM symbol as a ring or in a necklace. The BDSM symbol is subtle and one has to know what it is in order to understand the meaning of it – It is basically a safe way to out yourself to the proper people that are usually into the same thing as you are.
Another way is to have a tattoo done that reflects your kink and there are a lot of wonderful BDSM related tattoo designs out there.
The BDSM duck lends itself to some really interesting tattoo designs for people into BDSM and it also tells me that people having this as a nice tattoo can laugh about themselves – It’s eye catching and a bit more obvious than the BDSM emblem itself. The colors are bright, but are also hard to get right when using them in a tattoo. You should also be aware of the fact that colors in tattoos get bleached and that will change the appearance of the tattoo. Continued…
There are few things that I find strange within different fetishes or BDSM, so it isn’t out of disrespect that I write the next sentence: This video contains one of strangest things I’ve ever seen.
It’s a video from a Japanese human animal farm and maybe the language barrier adds to my perception of it being strange. It looks like an interesting take on animal/pet play and the participants seem to be enjoying themselves.
We are adding community features to the Island of Pain blog.
We’ve been playing around with different thoughts on how to move forward with the blog. We’ve decided to try out some different directions and one of them is to add community features like personal profiles and personal walls.
It’s basically the same functionality that you’re probably used to from sites like FetLife, Twitter or Facebook.
We’re of course not trying to compete with these giants, we’re just trying to increase the interaction between the people that are visiting the blog.
Another part that we’ve added, besides the wall and the personal profile, is the forum. Feel free to start a thread in the category we’ve added so far: Total Power Exchange.
More will come as we are designing the new features so everything is a bit fluid right now, but feel free to register and play around with the things that we’ve added so far.
We have all heard the aged old sentence usually mentioned within the BDSM community – “Submission is a gift”.
I totally agree with this statement, but I believe that it shouldn’t be used as a sort of definition on how much responsibility the Dominant is given by the submissive. If it is used for that reason then it tends to make the concept of responsibility quite one sided. Submission is a gift, but it puts responsibilities on the shoulders of the person that is giving the gift away as well.
Let us take a look at one definition of responsibility:
“Responsibility can be defined as assuming accountability for a task, decision or action. A person is said to be responsible for something when he or she accepts the consequences of something.”
In the book, The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People Stephen Covey’s first habit, being proactive is all about taking responsibility. He advises the following:
“Look at the word responsibility – “response-ability” – the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.”
This means that you have to do things right by yourself – Don’t look for reasons outside yourself why things didn’t go your way. Continued…
I need some tips on how to Dom my sub in a beach setting, can you help??
I will try to help, by asking you a question - Does the setting affect the act of dominating someone?
Dominance comes from within and not from the tools, setting or specific clothing. Dominance is something that is created between you and your submissive independent of whether it takes place on a beach or a dungeon.
If you are referring to what you can do in terms of activities on a beach, then there are a lot of things.
Put your sub in a pit (which the sub has dug) and fill the pit so only the head is sticking up. Then find a suitable straw of grass and use that to tickle the face.
Put a bucket over your submissives head and make your sub scream.
Have your submissive sit down next to you and fan you with a big feather - It's usually sunny at the beach and you will easily get warm.
A rolled up towel can be used as a whip, you just have to flck it the right way.
In the end it's all about imagination and what goals you want to achieve.
And don't forget - When you dom on the beach, use a sun block, it is no fun to be burnt or have a sub that is red for days - Unless the red marks has been made by you.
er, what is the issue about consent?
There are no specific issue regarding consent when it comes to BDSM - It has to be there as it is the one of the most important things that divide from abuse.
Without consent, no BDSM
Then you have other factors that affect the quality of the consent and this is where I prefer to talk about "informed consent".
This means that when you ask for consent then you have to make sure that the other person, who is giving you their consent, understands what they are consenting to and understand the consequences of the actions they are going to participate in.
Our first BDSM question has been answered.
Somebody sent us the interesting question above regarding consent, even if we are not totally sure what the issues are being referred to in the question itself – But as always; we’re doing our best to answer it.
Jay Wiseman, author of “SM101 – A Realistic Introduction” and BDSM educator, created a lot of debate around his opinions regarding Breath Play. A lot of his argumentation was, and still is, based on his medical skills, which is something not everyone within the BDSM community has acquired.
I agree with Jay Wiseman on this, if you don’ t have the necessary skills to perform breath play, then it is a dangerous activity – And most people don’t know if they have the necessary skills or not. The other problem is that there are a lot of myths surrounding breath play, “rules” that people recite in forums as if they were scientifically proven truths – But the real truth is that most of them are, in most cases, unsubstantiated claims without any empirical data to back them up at all.
Just an hour ago, Jay Wiseman published an essay on Breath play which is supposed to be a closing argument to the debate that from time to time have been raging around his opinions and statements regarding breath play.
It’s basically straight off the press, the ink has hardly dried, so head over to Jay Wiseman’s website and read it.
We’ve added a question box on the right side of the blog. You can it to ask us about how we think around BDSM and approach the lifestyle – Other questions might also be welcome of course.
Ask us about our opinion on consent, 24/7 or our love for leather, you can basically ask us anything. We will get opinionated, passionate or just plain old neutral when we answer.
Every now and then we’ll publish the questions and the answers to them in a post.
Who will be the first one to hit us with a really good question?
The music stream is now updated with a bundle of new songs from a variety of electronica artists and the next step is to put old recordings of our live shows into the stream as well.
We’ll also put up a new schedule for our live radio shows as soon as we have established the topics for each show.
You can also tune us in by clicking on the radio icons on the right side of the blog.
UPDATE
If you are running Firefox then you probably have to install a plugin to play the stream in your browser – If you are running on a Mac then you click on the icon on the right side of the blog that corresponds to Itunes. Another alternative is to download Winamp and associate .pls files with it.
Playing the stream through the shoutcast listing seem to chop up the sound for some reason and we don’t know right now if it is on their side or on our side.
I am a leather fetishist to the core as I find a great satisfaction in wearing leather. The smell and feeling of it are some of the aspects that I enjoy.
Lee Harrington is a BDSM kinkster and educator that has written a very interesting essay that approaches leather on a philosophical level. Head over to his site and watch the video in which he does a dynamic reading from his new book Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond.
The use of leather pants and similar accessories are sometimes ridiculed in forums. My opinion on this is that it’s usually done by people who are mostly clueless about the historical origins of certain BDSM expressions. Some people even want to stay unaware of the history as if they are inventing things on their own – In most cases they are just trying to reinvent the wheel as they are totally oblivious to the practical and historical reasons behind the usage of leather.
Lee’s video has some really nice references to the Leather man culture and the old guard. But most important of all – His video puts the usage of leather into a very interesting perspective.
I try to keep my promises, most of the times I am successful at it, other times I fail.
If you are a regular reader of our blog then you might remember that I made a promises a while ago – I promised to put up a nice picture of my wonderful submissive and equally wonderful partner in the crimes of life, Little Snowpaw. I made this promise as a token of our appreciation that goes out to all of you that voted for us over at bondageawards.com this year.
Little hit subspace as soon as she got the hood on for this shoot and it made the photo session a pure joy – Something that I hope is getting through in the image.
A big thanks and a big hug to all of you and here is our picture – Feel free to leave comments what your think about it.
Feel free to use the image for non-commercial purposes and we would appreciate if you give the image proper attribution if you do so.
One part of the Island of Pain is devoted to the variety of expression within the world of BDSM. The other part of the IoP blog is reports to and from the Second Life place Island of Pain, which is the focal point for a large and vibrant BDSM community. The blog acts as a bridge between online and RL worlds and is set out to help people who want to cross between them. The people that run the blog are experienced lifestylers and enjoy knowledge sharing. Comments and questions are welcome unless a thread is locked, and you can also contact us via BDSMquestion@gmail.com
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I was reached by some very disturbing news earlier today.
Congratulations to every kinkster out there, today it’s the International BDSM Day, 24/7 2010!
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One way to reveal your kink to the right people is to wear the BDSM symbol as a ring or in a necklace. The BDSM symbol is subtle and one has to know what it is in order to understand the meaning of it – It is basically a safe way to out yourself to the proper people that are usually into the same thing as you are.
We are adding community features to the Island of Pain blog.
We have all heard the aged old sentence usually mentioned within the BDSM community – “Submission is a gift”.
Jay Wiseman, author of “SM101 – A Realistic Introduction” and BDSM educator, created a lot of debate around his opinions regarding Breath Play. A lot of his argumentation was, and still is, based on his medical skills, which is something not everyone within the BDSM community has acquired.
We’ve added a question box on the right side of the blog. You can it to ask us about how we think around BDSM and approach the lifestyle – Other questions might also be welcome of course.
If you don’t already know it by now, 
I am a leather fetishist to the core as I find a great satisfaction in wearing leather. The smell and feeling of it are some of the aspects that I enjoy.
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